In the midst of the political upheaval and general upset, seeking peace of mind and heart, I have come to speculate that there are two lies at the foundation of human suffering:
First is that death is the ultimate evil and to be avoided at all cost.
Second is that I am (us humans are) fundamentally bad, unlovable and/or unacceptable.
Until I accept that they are lies, I am in a constant, if unconscious, state of fear and defensiveness. That fear drives aggression, greed, hatred, lying, hunger for power and control, living as victims, depression, imperialism, competition and addiction.
Contrary to almost universal consensus, here is the truth that can set us free:
First, death is natural. Death is transcendent. Death is an ending and a new beginning. Although it can be a disappointment to our friends and family and sometimes a shocking surprise to the deathee, the moment of everyone’s death is perfect. There is conscious being after death and, by all reports that I know of, is way, way nicer and easier than being incarnate.
Second, I (us humans) am a finite and personal expression of the infinite consciousness. I am exactly who and what I am supposed to be. I am a being of light. I am, in my core nature, lovable, worthy and good.
When I REALLY, TRULY trust this to be true, I am free. I can breathe. I can live my true self, motivated not from fear, but from inspiration, aspiration and love.
Try it on. Take a few deep breaths, exhaling gently. Now imagine that there is genuinely, absolutely nothing to fear – there is only the truth that death is perfect – a sweet passage that cannot be premature – and that I am OK and totally lovable exactly as I am. Trust that it is true.
Okay, easier said than done. Being able to do this has been the culmination of my life’s work and, although I believe it in my intellect, I still only experience glimpses of that exalted state. It is also the underpinnings of my practice as a psychotherapist.
It is also one of the most treasured of the beliefs that make up Riley’s Bubble.